Many small steps
Author: Kerstin Goldstein
Last updated: 26. April 2025
When life with fibromyalgia feels overwhelming, it’s natural to long for an easy solution.
I know how disheartening it can be when nothing seems to work the way it once did. When you feel like you’re trying so hard, yet standing still.
But real change begins right there — not by fighting against your body, but by learning to listen to it with kindness. By accepting what is, and giving yourself permission to explore new ways forward, one small step at a time.
In this blog article, I’ll share why there isn’t one single miracle tip — and how many small, conscious steps can make a real, noticeable difference over time.
Don’t look for the “jack of all trades”
When talking to people interested in my fibromyalgia coaching, I hear one particular question again and again:
“What is THE ONE tip to make me feel better?”
Ideally, you would like a clear answer, a kind of miracle cure. A solution that works quickly.
And I understand that. Because when fibromyalgia dominates everyday life, the desire for relief is great.
But I have to be honest: There is no such thing as the perfect tip. At least I haven’t found it yet.
But what I can say – from experience, from conversations with many people affected and also from my own story: it’s the many small changes that can make a big difference.
Your body works differently
A body with fibromyalgia reacts more sensitively. The “battery” is drained more quickly – and is not so easy to recharge. What is not a problem for other people can throw you completely off track.
That’s why it’s not about changing everything at once – it’s about making conscious decisions that give you energy instead of taking it away.
Examples from everyday life
Each of these situations is not a drama in itself. But they add up.
And that’s where the power lies:
When you start to consciously make different decisions, things can change.
What good or less good everyday actions add up for you?
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7 small tips that can make a big difference in total
Here I share a few ideas with you – all suitable for everyday use, easy to implement, but effective if you incorporate them regularly.
1. pay attention to your energy preparation
Especially before appointments, meetings or other “mandatory events”, it’s worth taking good care of yourself.
2. say no more often
You don’t have to join in everywhere. Saying no is not selfish – it’s self-care. Ask yourself: Is this good for me right now? If not, don’t do it.
3. movement – but adapted
You don’t need to break out in a sweat or do a tough workout. A few targeted movements, gentle and mindful, are often enough. The main thing is to do it regularly.
4. give yourself breaks – even if nothing is “done”
You don’t have to do anything to earn a break. You can simply take them – even in between, even briefly.
5. watch your diet – without dogma
It’s not about doing without, but about sensing. What gives you energy? What draws it from you? Try out what is good for you in the long term. If nutrition is a red rag for you, then let’s talk, I’ll be happy to help you implement it.
6. create rituals to switch off
Whether it’s meditation, an evening walk or simply ten minutes of rest on the sofa: rituals help your nervous system to wind down.
7. celebrate small successes
Every conscious decision FOR you counts. And it can also be celebrated. You don’t have to be perfect – you can just keep at it.
Which of the 7 little tips mentioned are you trying out?
My personal approach to dealing with fibromyalgia
I firmly believe that every person affected by fibromyalgia can find ways to cope better with the disease. It’s not about “curing” in the traditional sense, but about understanding your own body better and developing methods that make everyday life easier.
Through targeted coaching and an exercise program tailored to you, you can learn to regain control of your body and live your life with more energy and joy again.
Mindfulness in everyday life – consciously experience small moments
With fibromyalgia in particular, everyday life can quickly become overwhelming. Mindfulness helps you to feel more centered again. You don’t have to meditate for hours on end. Just a mindful moment while brushing your teeth, a conscious glance out of the window or a deep breath can reconnect you with yourself.
Ask yourself in between: How do I feel right now? What do I need now? – These little check-ins are like signposts throughout the day.
Your own rhythm counts – not that of others
With fibromyalgia, it’s easy to compare yourself: Why can she do it, but I can’t? Or: I should be able to do more. But your body has its own rhythm. And following it is not a weakness – it’s a form of self-care.
If you know your own rhythm and respect it, you will have much more ease. You don’t have to function like others. You can do it your way.
Start with a mini morning routine
You don’t have to get up at 5 a.m. and do an hour of yoga. But a short, conscious start to the day, a soothing morning routine can make a big difference – especially with fibromyalgia.
Perhaps you could take two minutes in the morning to stretch, take a deep breath or consciously ask yourself while brushing your teeth: “What do I need today?” or “What is my intention for the day?”
It’s not about big changes, but about small signals to your body: I’m here for you.
What is your intention for today?
Mine is: “I take a deep breath when I realize I’m getting stressed.”
Incorporate exercise into everyday life – without a fixed training plan
If fixed training times are too much for you, then spread your exercise throughout the day. A few shoulder circles at your desk, a ten-minute walk after dinner or a short stretch before going to bed – it all counts.
Realize that every step, every little movement is a yes to you. You don’t need a plan to be active – just the willingness to invite movement into your everyday life. My “Fit by Intuition” exercise programs support you in this.
Conclusion: Many small steps lead to the goal
Fibromyalgia is complex – and as different as we humans are. There is no single solution. But you can make a big difference with small, conscious steps.
If you find out what is good for you and incorporate it regularly into your everyday life, your life will become easier. Not overnight. But noticeably.
And if you would like support in doing so: In my coaching program, we go exactly this way – step by step, at your own pace.
You don’t have to change everything at once. But you can start today.
👉 Don’t feel like struggling through all the small steps on your own? As a Fibro Coach, I will be happy to accompany you. Let’s talk about whether my Fibro 1:1 coaching is right for you.
